Archive for the ‘Kids’ Category

Doh-Wa, Er, Dora Live

Monday, April 6th, 2009

Ruthie and I enjoyed a Dora Live production a couple weekends ago. Here are some photos, I have none of the performance as it was prohibited, and I wasn’t doing anything to ruin my little girl’s day!

The stage before the show (we were in the orchestra pit)

The stage before the show (we were in the orchestra pit)

In Front of the Chicago Theatre (It was Cold and Windy-Of Course!)

In Front of the Chicago Theatre (It was Cold and Windy-Of Course!)

Ruthie and her "Estrella" (Star)

Ruthie and her "Estrella" (Star)

Singing into her light up thing

Singing into her light up thing

The show is beginning Yeah!

The show is beginning Yeah!

We had a lot of fun! It was a total blast, even if it wasn’t quite Broadway quality. It was great. We both enjoyed it. Also, for the record, she has on Dora Earrings, 2 Dora shirts (The one she wore there + the one I bought, shoes, and undies over her pull up, and she wasn’t the most Dora’d kid there!

Hugs,

Sabrina

Has This Ever Happened to You?

Tuesday, March 31st, 2009

You have a couple of kids. Things are going really great, and you and your partner/spouse/mate decide that adding to your family would be an excellent idea! You decide to go for it, and have #3, because, after all, you saved every stitch of clothing #1 and #2 wore (You’re covered, right?). Everything goes really well, and you are really excited for the arrival of #3. You prepare for the big arrival by taking out all of #2’s clothes (Because #2 and #3 will be the same gender) and prepare the room. You are overflowing with excitement as you bring home your precious bundle! Everything is in it’s perfect place, and baby girl (Lily) fits right into #2’s (Ruthie) clothes. It’s wonderful…for the first couple of months. Then, you decide that there is a difference. Aside from their very deceiving almost parallell looks, baby girl (Lily) seems to be a larger (Read GARGANTUAN) little one. She seems to be tearing through #2’s (Ruthie) wardrobe at an alarming rate (Feel my panic).

Now, let’s imagine that you had a special day. It’s your 9th wedding anniversary, and your husband has to work. You send #1(Charlie) and #3(Lily) off to their grandparents house so you can get some clothes re-arranging in Andre The Giant’s (I mean er, Lily’s) room. Now, imagine that you had a nice shopping trip for household necessities (Read-Food and Toilet Paper) with #2 (Ruthie) and returned home to a starving, tired husband. The three of you have a wonderful dinner out, and when you return home you spend no less than 4 (read- 7 1/2) hours taking out old clothes, sorting them, and getting out new clothes and putting them in their place. You feel all happy, and accomplished, and then it happens…….you realize everything is all wrong! All of the “next size clothes” (12Mo) are the wrong season! #2 (Ruthie) my sweet, sweet, little petite Princess was in 6-9 months until she was no less than 15 months old. That’s great for her, but Monster baby (I mean Lily) is already in 6-9 mo and moving out of it, and she’s only 8 months old. There is no way she will be in 6-9 months through the summer. I have not one single stitch of 12 mo clothing of the summer pursuasion. Not one! No sundresses, no shorts, Nothing. Zilch. Zip. Nada. Lily (I mean #3) will need a whole new wardrobe. This has been my fear since she came home from the hospital in 0-3 mo instead of Preemie like her sister. I’m freaking out. I’m panicing. I’m realizing that while they all might look relatively similar, they are all 3 very, very different. -Sigh-

I guess I will be spending April Fool’s day at the used kids clothing store stocking up on summer necessities for Lily!

Hugs,

Sabrina

Friends Don’t Let Friends…

Wednesday, March 25th, 2009

Poop when they’re tired. Exhausted may be the word I’m looking for…

Yep, he fell asleep ON the toilet!

Yep, he fell asleep ON the toilet!

He's really asleep - Totally not faking. I poked him with a stick...

He's really asleep - Totally not faking. I poked him with a stick...

I still can't believe it...

I still can't believe it...

Friends may not let friends do it, but parents will let you, and then take photos! I sent him up to go, and after about 30 minutes wondered why I hadn’t heard him screaming for me to wipe his heiney…I soon found out…LOL! Poor tired little guy! I guess that parents day was too much for him after all…hahaha More wonderful memories :o )

“That Little Girl Looks Just Like You!”

Wednesday, March 25th, 2009

I heard this today from a complete stranger. I took Ruthie out to a special lunch at Baker’s Square (Because today is FREE SLICE day!) and as we were leaving this complete stranger said this to me. I don’t hear this a lot, mostly because when Chris is with us, there is no mistaking his features in the kids…however, it was nice to hear it. I thought I’d post a little comparison for you all, since most of you know that Ruthie has some of Chris’s more dominant features…

Sabrina - Age 3

Sabrina - Age 3

Ruthie

Ruthie

I guess of the 3, she looks the most like me. They all have some of my features, and Ruthie has a lot of my personality. She’s outgoing, fearless, compassionate, and loyal. take away Chris’s nose, and the darkness of her hair, and yeah, I suppose she does look a lot like me.

Hugs,

Sabrina

Families Are Like Fudge

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Super Sweet With a Few Nuts Mixed In…

Move Over Engineer Bob! Lily is in charge now!

Move Over Engineer Bob! Lily is in charge now!

Peekaboo Lily

Peekaboo Lily

Wistful Charlie

Wistful Charlie

A picture of ME! and Lily!

A picture of ME! and Lily!

Showing off her newest skill - Sitting Up!

Showing off her newest skill - Sitting Up!

Goofy Glasses

Goofy Glasses

Goofy Glasses on Ruthie

Goofy Glasses on Ruthie

Tinkerbell the Assassin

Tinkerbell the Assassin

Quotable Wednesday

Wednesday, February 25th, 2009

Lily got me up at 5:30 today. I didn’t exactly appreciate that, but hey, a girl’s gotta eat. I fed her, changed her, played with her, and then when she fell back to sleep aroun 6:20 so did I. I was awoken around7:30 by Charlie using his little fingers to pry my eyes open. He then told me that “Brown Eyes Suck” and he wants blue or maybe yellow like snickle (the cat). If he hadn’t been so terribly serious I might have laughed. It must be rough when Daddy’s not here, he’s the only brown-eyed one of the bunch so far….maybe in the future he’ll get a little brown-eyed brother.

-Sabrina-

Still No $$, and I’m In A Bad Mood

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

We still haven’t gotten our money back from the long over house contract. It’s over, where’s my CHECK!? – I’m very frustrated.

Adding to the frustration is the fact that Chris is gone (again) and Lily is now sick. She’s running 101.0 fever and throwing up- Lovely

Adding to that is that one of Charlie’s teachers is all over my back. His progress report wasn’t “stellar” which already ticked me off in regards to her, but now she’s bugging the hell out of me for a conference. Honestly, when the hell do I have time to sit with her in peace and quiet and talk about how “stupid” she obviously thinks my kid is? Does she really think I’m not going to fly off the handle and strangle the life out of her the minute she starts talking about him “Not doing as well as she hoped”? He’s leaps and bounds ahead of last year, and he’s exceeding my expectations with logic, and memory skills. So what if he doesn’t want to write his name!? So what if he counts flawlessly to 10, but skips 15 when counting to 20? He’s got years to figure that out! I don’t believe he should be reading next year! It’s KINDERGARTEN for Pete’s sake! KINDERGARTEN, not SR yr of High school! – Sorry for that rant, I’m really losing it with her. He’s really doing so much better than last year, and even this year in his old school (which reminds me, I ran into his old teacher the other day, can you say awkward? – How about if we’re still up here her sister in law will be his Kindergarten teacher!?). Anyway, I’m over it. Now, they are telling me he has no self-esteem. Apparently I’m a bad parent because I don’t know why he has no self esteem (I don’t think it’s a SE issue, I think he just has his dad’s quirky personality!) and don’t know what to do to increase it. She says this because 1. He doesn’t like to try new things (Like CHRIS!) 2. He won’t say anything if he doesn’t know the answer. He has to be positive he’s right first (Like CHRIS!) 3. He’s Mr Outgoing, and usually travels in a pack as opposed to doing things on his own (And the problem is!? He’s doing things, isn’t he!? Maybe he’s just a pack animal!) – Like I said, I’m beyond done.

Honestly, progress reports in Preschool!? I took naps, sang songs, and had fun…doesn’t sound like he has a lot of fun there…I look back on Preschool and smile. It was a lot more fun than Kindergarten (Because I don’t remember it) and heaven compared to 1st grade when my first grade teacher called me in front of the class and said “You are the dumbest little girl I’ve ever had the displeasure of teaching. I don’t think you will ever learn to read, you are just stupid” – Yes Mrs LaGreid, I remember what a cruel, hateful, disgusting wench you were. I hope you choke to death on those words! (I showed her, I can read a 500+ page book in 5.5 hrs!). I will never forget her, or the hate and hurt in her words. I refuse to let my child ever fear inferior. He’s terribly stubborn, but also terribly crafty and smart. He knows that if I feel he really doesn’t want to do something I will make him do it, so he just sort of fakes it now. -Ugh. I had hoped to foster a love of learning, but I think preschool has ruined that for him. I’m not sure I will put Ruthie in. I certainly wouldn’t up here.-Sigh.

I’m really grumpy. I can barely get my parents up here for the day let alone 2, and with Chris gone almost all the time, when am I supposed to schedule this thing? It has to be a day/time when Charlie won’t know. I don’t want him knowing we are talking about him. I think it will hurt his feelings. She already said too much in front of him when she said “We have a real problem with Charlie” – Seriously!? Grow a brain! How can a college-educated person be so stupid? You should NEVER say anything in front of the child! I don’t even talk with Chris about it when Charlie is around. I don’t want him thinking I’m upset with him!

Oh, and he does 100% fine at home. Knows all the letters by sight, ABC song, Sounds, Numbers by sight…he’s intimidated by that 1 teacher (who is the only one who does the evaluations) and he freezes at “test time”. I understand that all too well. My poor son. Of all the things he HAD to inherit from me. Ugh…I’m already dreading this “conference”.

Also – 1 of the other teachers thinks he’s doing beautifully. She thinks the other teacher is insane and expects too much from a 4 yr old! – Finally, a brilliant person!

-Sabrina

Red Dye Allergy/Intolerance

Wednesday, February 11th, 2009

I haven’t mentioned this publicly, but Charlie has an allergy/intolerance to red dye. It doesn’t seem to matter which red dye (#40 is in most things, but not in M&M’s which also causes his episodes), he ingests; within an hour he’s a complete psycho. Our pediatrician agrees that this is most likely an issue, but doesn’t test for it (I would have to pay independently for the test he thinks). I was searching the Internet and found a few things that confirm both my, and the doctor’s suspicions…

First, there was this comment left on a message board post:

“RED DYE! I had the same problem, and recognized that 30 minutes prior to my daughter’s pick up time was SNACK TIME! We found out that Red Dye #40 (in most of her snacks/drinks) causes extreme problems, which mimic a psychotic episode. Removing the red dye (and Yellow#5) entirely from her diet brought out a completely different child. Online, researcing red dye’s effects, the explanation was ‘psychatric outbursts’. My childs seemed to come out of nowhere, started from anything OR nothing!! Look up Dr. Feingold online for help – you have to really look at ALL labels…you’d be surprised at what has red dye in it. TRY IT! It can’t hurt. =) good luck.”

You can view the entire post here:

http://www.greatschools.net/cgi-bin/showarticle/CA/768

Then, on a blog that I stumbled upon from another blog I found this:

“Let’s talk about how Red Dye 40 affected my daughter, Amanda. A year ago, I was having a really hard time with Amanda. She just wasn’t doing well. Things would set her off. She would start throwing temper tantrums that would last for 20 minutes. She couldn’t sit still. She would often cry uncontrollably. She would rage like a crazy person. She would try to hurt herself. She banged her head on the floor. She was defiant and hyperactive. She just looked tormented. As a parent, I felt this wasn’t normal 2 year old behavior. As a parent, I could see that there was something terribly wrong.

I started reading books like “The Difficult Child” and the “Out Of Sync Child”. I began getting really afraid that she might have Sensory Integration Disorder. She just couldn’t seem to control her behavior. On top of the raging, she seemed to exhibit reckless behavior too. Everything was pointing to a long and miserable childhood if I couldn’t figure out what was wrong. My intuition told me that something was making her behave like this. She was always a high needs baby, but she was never like I’ve described as a baby. I could tell that she had changed.

Finally, at my sister’s urging I changed our diet. I took all the dye out of the kid’s diet. I wasn’t always into healthy, organic food. They used to have Fruit Loops before breakfast every morning, for crying out loud! Within 2 days, she was a different child. She was the child I knew I was supposed to have. She doesn’t rage anymore. She is happy now.”

http://fourtimesthefun.blogspot.com/2007/02/feeding-our-children-petroleum-food-dye.html

For all the posts on red-dye you can visit here. There is even a great video of one of her daughter’s post-red dye episodes. It’s not pretty, but it’s very true…

http://fourtimesthefun.blogspot.com/search/label/red%20dye%2040

Finally, I found this:

http://www.breitbart.tv/?p=228903

I cannot even begin to tell you the behavior issues we’ve had with Charlie in the past. The uncontrollable outbursts, screaming, crying, and overall meanness. I have banned him from eating red dye (which is hard because it’s in EVERYTHING!) and he’s a totally different kid. He’s sweet, kind, caring, calmer, follow directions, and is learning. The problem (as stated in the video) is that there is no physical reaction which is why I’ve heard it often brushed off. Charlie’s teacher even brushed it off at first. I can tell when they’ve given it to him at school, because his “behavior tag” is on “warning” and he talks back and yells at me. He also bangs his head on things and won’t cooperate with his teachers. There are no hives or breathing difficulties, only complete and under psychosis. Chris even noticed it when we went to a birthday party and Charlie had cake with red dye in it. I was hoping there would be a minimal amount, imagine my horor when I saw the cake for the first time:

Birthday Cake

Birthday Cake

Even the smaller cake had red dye in it (Red + White=Pink). I was afraid of what my son was going to trun into. At first, he just acts hyper, like any kid that has sugar. Unfortunately, that soon turns into Mr. Hyde as the dye begins to affect his brain. I am convinced that it causes some sort of impairment, or misfiring in his brain because he acts like a complete JERK.

I used to get very angry with him, because his behavior is unimaginable. However, now I understand there is actually a problem I try to just handle it as nicely as I can. Luckily he didn’t act out much at the party because he was tired. Thank God he had run around so much he was exhausted because I don’t know if I could have handled him otherwise. When I asked him if he wanted water, he started to cry and whine-This is the first sign of his meltdown. He cries for no reason at all. He talks and makes no sense sometimes.  He’s very emotionally un-glued. He screams, he throws tantrums, he bangs his head of things, and he never listens. Maybe you can understand why I avoid the red dye. He’s not like that at all when he doesn’t have it. He’s the child I know he is inside, that other child is just a deranged monster on steroids. Charlie and Ruthie fight a lot less too. They used to fight constantly and she was always biting him because he took “__insert toy name here__” or hit her, yelled at her, etc…They still fight, but a lot less. I’m less stressed, and Charlie has less bite marks and bruises.

I want to make clear that I am not making excuses.  I have not just cooked this up in my head as a way to explain my son’s occasional outbursts. Charlie still has moments where he doesn’t want to listen, still cries, and doesn’t listen. He gets disciplined for those times.  However, since avoiding red dye these moments are down to MAYBE once a week instead of several times a day. Chris and I used to say he cries all the time, now, he doesn’t. Our pediatrician told me it would be like this, and I never would have believed it. I’m so grateful I came across these blogs and articles or I never would have known.

It’s a difficult to find sweets and treats without red dye, but we have found a few. It will make sorting candy post- trick or treat more interesting next year, as well as birthday parties, school parties, and other events. I won’t not let him have cake, but I will prepare myself for the enraged beast that he will shortly become.

I will leave you with a comparison shot from the party last week:

Before Red Dye

After eating pizza, before cake

After eating pizza, before cake

After Red Dye

Whining already after cake

Whining already after cake

Which boy would you rather deal with? The sweet, mild mannered good boy, or the deranged monster red dye unleashes?

-Sabrina

Sometimes You Gotta Try New Things…

Monday, February 9th, 2009

Well, after reading another blog written by a mom of Triplets, and a bonus baby (She has 4 kids under 5 and cooks breakfast for them every day!) I decided about 2 months ago that giving my kids cold cereal for breakfast is unacceptable. Ok, it works when we’re at grandma and grandpa’s, or if we have a busy morning, but I try every day to prepare a good, healthy, wholesome breakfast for the kids. It’s also much easier to accomplish this now that Charlie is up long before he has to be at school. Afternoon Pre-K is so much more convenient than AM Pre-K!

What have I been making them you ask? Well, for the most part scrambled eggs, French toast, pancakes, waffles, and fruit. I know, pathetic, right!? So, today I decided to mix things up. I got out the ole’ cookbook and read how to make a nice fluffy omelet for the kids. And I did it! I’m really proud of myself. Organic eggs, cheese, and fresh cut up strawberries with home-made whipping cream – YUM!  Here’s some photos!

Cheese and Green Pepper omelet with "Patrick Star Strawberries"

Cheese and Green Pepper omelet with "Patrick Star Strawberries"

The kids would have eaten the strawberries without the whipped cream, but I thought it looked more appealing aesthetically.

He actually ate the omelet FIRST! He really enjoys eggs!

He actually ate the omelet FIRST! He really enjoys eggs!

I should probably add here that the pediatrician told me to get Ruthie probiotic yogurt to help her diarrhea while she’s on the antibiotics for the ear infections (Which I just noticed I never blogged about). And, well, what one has the other MUST also have…

This is all that was left! Mission accomplished!

This is all that was left! Mission accomplished!

When he was done he said “Mom I’m SOOOOO STUFFED with eggs!”

Ruthie is almost done with her amoxicillian now. It’s been a long week. Between the rotavirus ravaging our house (Ruthie, Chris, My Mom), the double ear infections, continued brace wearing due to her broken collarbone, I’m wiped out. Oh, and I’ve kicked in and started making my own baby food again too…today was corn and pears!

A Little Out Of Focus, but she was really enjoying it!

Yum, Pears!!

“Mom, I like the pears MUUUUUUCH better than the corn; lets start with that next time!”

Stuffed Again!

Stuffed Again!

“zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz”

Hugs,
Sabrina

“Brace Yourself”

Monday, January 26th, 2009

(See January 17, 2009 post )-Most of you know by now that Ruthie has a fractured collarbone (Clavicle). It’s not too bad according to the x-rays, or the fabulous pediatric orthopedic surgeon we saw last Wednesday. He put her in a “Figure of 8 Brace” for 3 weeks, and we will go back on February 13th for another x-ray to see if it’s healed. He says that there will most likely be a bump on the bone (possibly the size of a walnut!)  and that it will take an extra 3 weeks of being careful with her before she’s totally healed and ready to take more hits from her brother. God help us! Here are some photos of Ruthie sporting her brace. It’s nearly invisible under her shirt, Thank goodness for that! Here are some photos!

For those who don’t know, about a week and a half ago Charlie ran into, then fell on top of Ruthie here at home. My Mother In Law, Debbie, and I were both sitting right there with the kids when it happened. Ruthie cried for about 5 minutes and then went back to playing. Hours later, after her nap, she was favoring the arm, and when I felt the area there was an odd lump and she screamed. I took her to the ER immediately. Here are the X-Rays.

First X-Ray in the ER clearly shows a fracture

First X-Ray in the ER clearly shows a fracture

2nd x-ray in the ER shows fractured clavicle, but not shoulder or arm.

2nd x-ray in the ER shows fractured clavicle, but not shoulder or arm.

Another look at the clavicle.

Another look at the clavicle.

Yep, her arm is still not injured.

Yep, her arm is still not injured.

This is what they did for her in the ER. They told me to keep her in the sling, and ace bandage for 6 weeks and then to see the orthopedic surgeon that saw her in the ER. I’m glad I did not take that advice. Anyway, here she is after the ER visit…

"Ouch!"

"Ouch!"

"That Lousy Brother Of Mine"

"That Lousy Brother Of Mine"

Still Smilin'

Still Smilin'

Tuesday morning (They were closed Monday for MLK day) our pediatrician called. He said he had gotten the report from the Er that Ruth had been seen, and he wanted to check up on her. I told him what had happened, and what they did for her in the ER, and his exact words were “I want her to be seen immediately by a pediatric orthopedic surgeron.” I called around all day and could not find anyone that had an appointment prior to the next Tuesday. There was no way we could wait. Ruthie was wriggling out of the bandage and was just miserable not being able to use her hand. She fell down the stairs-twice. She has no balance without her right hand, and is so independent you just can’t help her do anything. I called the pediatrician back and told him I couldn’t find anyone. He did! He is so wonderful, he called someone up at the Children’s hospital and got us an appointment for Wednesday morning. We were there at 9AM on the dot!

The pediatric Ortho took one look at her and said “Yep, figure 8 should do nicely”. They took an x-ray to ensure the ER “treatment” hadn’t further damaged her then put her in the brace…then they took 2 more x-rays to ensure it was in the right place and sent us home until friday the 13th. I told Ruthie when she was all better she could have a party, once they got the brace on she said “Party” she really felt that much better! Here she is in the brace, or what chris calls “her backpack”.

Helping With Laundry

Helping With Laundry

From The back

From The back

Yep, she's still smiling!

Yep, she's still smiling!

Nothing will keep her from carrying her baby!

Nothing will keep her from carrying her baby!

The only drawback to this brace is that it’s rubbing the back of her neck and causing a bit of a problem…I’ve tried putting a sock in there, a gauze pad, and some fleece, but it just moves around too much. I wish my sewing machine worked, I’d just use it to stitch the fleece on…oh well. Anyway, here’s a photo of the neck rash.

Nasty Rash from the brace

Nasty Rash from the brace

All in all she seems to be feeling much better than before! Thank God for that! She’s gotten lots of get well cards from family and friends and has been carrying them all over the house and delivering them to her babies. :o )

Hugs, Sabrina